Why can't you join Shiloh's forum. That makes no sense.
What are you using for a press?
Turn that size die down til it just touches the shell holder.
Get some sizing die lube, and stay away from the axle grease.
Who's reloading manual are you using?
See if this helps- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EUxiDpEOVJw
Gary